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Welcome to The Executive Mom blog. You will find wonderful blogs about how to be a more efficient, empowered, loving, and happy mom while bringing peace, stabilty and consistency into your home. I will lend real life failures and successes, and I will share my wisdom. I hope that you will feel encouraged and excited in your mommy journey. Please head over to my blog tab, stay awhile and read. 🙂

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Ode to Me

Before I had kids, I used to have a business as a Life Coach. I helped women learn who they were with their personality, strengths, weaknesses, and boundaries. I helped them set schedules, budgets, and anything that helped them grow as a person. I was the “Dating Yourself Coach.” And, sometimes in those sessions I would conduct a “possibility thinking” exercise.  This exercise allowed a client to imagine life or a certain situation from a different perspective.  So, if you are willing, I would like to invite you to a possibility thinking exercise with me.  If you are in a place to close your eyes throughout this exercise, please do so.

Imagine that someone has just written a song; they bring it to you, and the title reads, “Ode to __ (fill in your name here).”  As you look at the pieces of paper with notes and words written on it, what is your reaction?  What is the theme of the song?  What is written about you?  What words stand out to you?  Is the song happy, is it sad, is it upbeat, or is it solemn?  Is it a song that others would want to listen to on the radio or iTunes?  Think about the exact words in the song.  If someone were to write a song (or even poem) dedicated to you, what would he/she write?  Would you like what you read?

Take a few moments to really think about this….

Now that you have had time to think, I want to challenge you to ask yourself what others think of you?  How do others really and truly view you?  Is it the same way that you perceive yourself?  Do others like you as much as you like yourself?  On the flip side, do others like and cherish you more than you appreciate yourself?  Do you wish that others could view you differently than they do currently?

How do you want others to view you, your life, your strengths, and your weaknesses?  Are you working towards others seeing you this way?

When I was younger, I was very unapproachable.  I was a social butterfly, running from one group of friends to the other.  Although I was nice, fun, and life of the party, I came off as if I had it all together.  People would tell me later in my life that they did not feel that they could always open up to me because they felt like I would not understand them.  I have learned to open up, to say how life is really going from day-to-day. I can now admit when I am weak, I can admit my faults, and I can be real with people I know.  If I am having a bad day or season in life, I admit it; I seek out friends who can help me instead of shutting off and continuing a pattern of being unapproachable.  Although this is a work in process, I just had someone tell me recently that I am an open person, and that I share how I feel.  I was shocked to hear this, coming from a newer friend.  I imagine that my song would talk about this theme, and I would continue to hit the repeat button over and over again!

If you don’t like your “Ode to ___” song, there is still time to change it. Start today with a new “Ode to ___” song!

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My Strengths as a Mommy

Every single person on this planet has strengths and weaknesses. Your strengths come naturally to you, and your weaknesses are those frustrating things you continually have to work on in life. We all have them, and they are different from our spouse, neighbor, best friend, and our kids.

I was a part of a Mommy’s group several years ago, and on one particular day that we met, the speaker encouraged us to find our strengths as mothers. I already knew my strengths as a person and woman, but I had never thought of my strengths as a mom. I was surprised to think they could be different from that of my core strengths. Yet, some of them were.

I want to encourage you to think of your top five strengths as a mom. Sit down, grab a cup of coffee, your computer, smart phones, a journal, or a piece of paper. What do your strengths look like as a mom? What are you good at with your kids? What comes naturally and easy to you? What do others say you do effortlessly? And write them down with a description of the strength. Are you organized, are you spontaneous, are you gentle, are you fun, do you forgive easily, can you see between the lines, are you an excellent cook, soccer mom, teacher, cleaner, etc.? Once you begin to search, you may be surprised at what you find.

Here are my top five strengths as a mom:

  1. Intuition–sometimes I know what my kids are going to do before they do it. Sometimes I know what they are about to say. And when they get upset, sometimes I can read between the lines to see what is really going on under the surface. There are very few things that I am more accurate about in life than my children, and nothing more consistently.
  2. Natural Teacher–I said I would never homeschool my kids, but yet, I am preschooling both of them. And I teach life lessons everyday. I love to explain things to my children about how the world works. I rarely answer a question without a lesson and learning opportunity to go along with the question.
  3. Organization–this is one of my strengths in general. I love organization! I help my children to keep their toys organized, their day, their thoughts, their shoes, etc. I just love to organize whatever I can whether physically or mentally.
  4. Fun Mom/Imaginative–I love to play with my kids. I like to get into their world. I love to talk about imaginary friends. I love to see the world like they do. I love to surprise, dance for, and sing with my kids. I love to make them smile and laugh! My kids constantly say, “Mommy, you’re silly.” To which I reply, “Thank you.” They may think I’m lame one day, but that’s ok.
  5. Seeing each child individually–I can see different personality types, strengths, and weaknesses within each of my children. I see how one child needs firmness when another one needs tenderness. I don’t treat my children equally because they are not the same person. I want each to be successful, so I treat them how they are wired.

I hope this can give you a great starting point. I would love to know about your strengths, so feel welcome to share either here or by emailing me!

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Goodbye, Social Butterfly, Goodbye

NOTE: This is not my typical blog, but it’s dear to my heart right now. I hope that it can help even one of my readers, and maybe inspire you if you have ever or will ever feel this way in your life.

I used to be the life of the party. I walked around and I got to know everyone in the room. I did this, not because I wanted to be in the center of attention and popular, but because I genuinely love people. I love getting to know them, finding out their passions and loves in life, hearing stories about their lives. And, I was able to help connect other people to those who they shared common interests, backgrounds, and ideas. I loved helping people become friends. That is a joy and passion of mine.

When I got married, though, this changed. I married an amazing man. He is loyal to the core. He is loving and caring, and would do anything for his friends. His friends from college are scattered in other cities, and he still finds time to catch up with them by phone. But, he’s not a social butterfly. This was difficult for me because I had to step back in social settings. I didn’t want to overwhelm my new husband or leave him by himself. We did find mutual friends together, and that was amazing. But, things were slowly changing.

Enter children… My oldest is just now learning to be social, but was a timid baby and toddler. Before he was born, I was excited to have a child who I could have fun with in social settings and charge the room. I imagined he would like social settings just as much as I did. However, this child was not going to be social. It’s not who he is. And that’s ok. I love him for how God made him. But I, once again, had to hang back.

My second child seems to be more social, but I’m still figuring this one out. Even if he is social, that I am now preschooling both kids, and life is busier. And we have more activities. Add to that fact that we moved less than two months before I had my oldest child. I have had to start over with friends. I have found several amazing friends, but I often feel like I’m on the sidelines. Most of my friends have friends of many years. They are settled in their friendships. This is difficult for a social butterfly like me. I don’t have the time to dedicate to building many friendships, so I am making less friends, but deep frienships still.

My husband and children have changed the way I do social interactions. And sometimes I really struggle. Sometimes I feel like I’m not being true to myself. Other times I realize it’s just for a season. Being involved in events is not the same with little kids. I know that and I have accepted that.

And I know that moving changes social interactions too. I am learning to make less friends, but be intentional with the friendships I do make. I don’t have to be friends with everyone in the room now; just a few amazing friends make me happy. This has been a difficult change, but one that is a realization for me.

It’s been said that being a stay-at-home mom is the loneliest job. I would have to agree with that statement. But Mommy, whatever you feel today, this too shall pass. The days will continue, and one day you will have all the time in the world to do what you want.

I remember thinking that I wanted to go to a local play, but that it was not likely because I still had a baby. Then, I had a thought: someday I will HAVE to go to plays and events because I will no longer have children at home. That felt like a sad thought to me. So, I decided then that if I couldn’t have as exciting of a social life as I used to, I would be content with that. Sometimes, like today, I still struggle, but in general, having children is worth the change in my life. I know my butterfly has flown away for a while, but I know it will return again one day. But until then, I will cherish the few friends I do have, and continue to be a good friend to them.

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Energy

According to Wikipedia, there are 65 brands of energy drinks.  This includes anything from soft drinks like Coca-Cola to espresso, tea, sports drinks to names I have never ever heard of in my life!  I am amazed that many of these brands have their own flavors as well.  What is your favorite energy drink?

Better yet, how do you obtain energy in your life?  Do you get it from a drink?  Does it come from Starbuck’s?  Does it come from sleep?  Does it come from prayer?  Does it come from adrenaline?  Do you crash and burn after the energy is gone?

In our busy society, we are all looking for the magic pill or drink to find and keep as much energy in our bodies as possible.  How do we maintain energy, though, without a lot of time, energy, and money?

I majored in music while in college.  During the spring of my sophomore year, I performed in a recital.  I worked for six months to perfect a full Sonata (in D Major) by Joseph Hayden.  I learned and memorized the notes to all ten pages of the piece of music.  I worked on the dynamics, I worked on technique, I worked on the emotion that would emerge from each of the three movements.  The first and last movements were faster and more lively, while the middle section was slow and solemn.  I worked countless hours in practice and lessons to learn my music inside and out.  The day of the recital, a friend in my dorm fixed my hair.  I wore a beautiful red floor-length dress.  My mom even traveled five hours for the performance. I remember being so nervous as I sat down at the piano, but about a minute or two into the fifteen minute performance, nothing else mattered.  Everyone and everything seemed to slip away.  I felt as though I was the only person alive.  I felt like every human being living was at my recital.  I was in the zone!  This was pure energy…no caffeine needed.  No energy drink imbibed.  All that I possessed was concentration and passion, and that was enough.

Have you ever been in a similar situation?  Maybe during a big business meeting where you signed a large client?  Maybe it was on your wedding day?  Maybe it was as you were jumping out of a plane or white water rafting.  Maybe it was on the day that your first-born child was born. Regardless of the event, I am sure you can relate.  When you are in the zone, energy comes effortlessly.  Your energy naturally flows through into the event or situation.

But, you don’t have to play the piano to have this kind of energy. And you don’t have to learn notes on a page to find your passions and use them. You don’t have wait six months in order to feel like you are living to your full potential.

What if you could put that kind of energy, passion, and consistency into other areas of YOUR life?  What if you could create your own energy?  What is your reaction to these questions?  Do you feel empowered?  Many times we allow events or special situations to drive our energy, when really, we have this energy available to us every single day of our life.  Right now, I feel energized as I write this blog encouraging and challenging you to do more with your life.  You do not have to live a mediocre life.  The choice is yours.  So, put down the energy drink, and pick up your passion for life….and charge!

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I Hope You Dance

Le Ann Womack has a great song entitled, “I Hope You Dance.”  Here are some great lines from that song:

  •  “And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance, I hope you dance”
  • “Never settle for the path of least resistance, Livin’ might mean takin’ chances, but they’re worth takin’”
  • “When you come close to sellin’ out, reconsider.”

All of these lines encourage me because sometimes I want to sit it out, or give up in life.  Sometimes I want to settle for what is easy.  Sometimes I am afraid to take chances in my life.  Sometimes it’s easier to go with the crowd than standing up for my convictions and integrity.  Can you relate to some or all of these lyrics?

I wish life was a dance.  I wish life was always fun and always easy, but it seems like life is more like bumper cars than a beautiful waltz.  Life gets tough, the storms come, and sometimes it feels like we are drowning.  What do you do in those tough times?  Do you sit it out, or do you dance with yourself?  Do you give yourself a break, or do you beat yourself up as if you were in a boxing match?  Do you give yourself time to recoup, or do you push yourself forward only to worsen the situation?

I have told my husband several times, “Honey, if you make a mistake, just make sure it’s a big one.  Make a big mistake, fall down, but learn from it, pick yourself up, and then move on.”  That is how I view life.  We all make mistakes, we all fall down as life taught us as children.  But, do we get back up?  Do we even allow ourselves the opportunity to make the mistake in the first place?

I want to talk for a minute about the opportunity to make a mistake.  How do children learn that a stove is hot?  They touch it.  How do they learn to ride a bicycle?  They fall down a few times.  We learn how to caution ourselves in life (the stove example), and we learn how to accomplish a goal (learning to ride a bicycle) after a few cuts and bruises. However, we can’t learn and grow from our mistakes if we never make mistakes!  Have we forgotten this as adults? We watch our children get hurt and make mistakes. We give them grace, but often we don’t give ourselves the same grace.

The next time that you make a mistake, the next time you get mad at yourself, the next time that you want to sit it out, give up, or just throw in the towel, why not dance?  Why not enjoy the learning process?  Why not laugh at yourself once in a while?  Why not allow yourself to be human and make mistakes and go through hard times just like everyone else?  Don’t be afraid to fall down in life, but make sure, in time, to get back up and learn from it.

And when you do, I hope you dance.

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Meal Planning: How to Make This Necessary Task More Efficient

We all have to eat and we have to eat everyday. And someone has to decide what the family will eat. Then, someone must put together a grocery list and buy the things on the list. Lastly, someone must physically make the meals. In my home, that “someone” falls to me.

I’ll be honest, cooking is not one of my passions. I don’t particularly enjoy it. I do it to keep my family alive and because I love them. I would rather scrub a toilet than make a meal, if I am totally honest. I feel cooped up in the kitchen, and it feels like a time waster since it’s an everyday task. Why can’t it take two minutes instead of thirty minutes? Anyways, that’s probably a different blog for another day. 🙂

Since it’s not something I enjoy doing like organizing, teaching, or cleaning, I try to make it as streamlined as possible. My organizational skills do come into play often with planning meals. Here is how I prepare meals each week. I hope you can use part of all of this to make your process easier too, especially if you don’t like to cook like me, or you don’t like to organize, or you dread the grocery store.

  1. I keep a list of all of my recipes in an excel sheet. I write the date each time I make a meal. That way I can see if it’s a favorite and being used more often and how often each meal is being prepared. Right now I have about 60 recipes, and they get used every eight to nine months. I also list what cookbook the recipe can be found, what page, how long it takes to prepare, how long it takes to cook, the category (Mexican, Italian, American, etc.), what meat (if any) it uses, and whether it’s a crockpot, stovetop, or oven meal. This allows me to keep a variety of meals going each week for my family.
  2. Next, I plan at the beginning of each week. I am actually planning right now, which is what prompted me to write this blog. I don’t want to pull a recipe together last minute and hope I have the ingredients. I also don’t want to plan or shop more than once a week. I keep all of my recipes in an app on my phone. I share it with my husband so he knows what’s on the dinner plan for the week. I write the name of the meal in the app, the page, and what cookbook contains the recipe. Then, I check the recipe in the cookbook, and make a grocery list.
  3. My grocery lists are online (Walmart online) and in an app on my phone (same as the one I use for planning meals). I shop at two grocery stores each week. One is a health store where I get my produce and as much as I can in other areas, but Walmart online fills the holes since they are a big chain store. I also believe that shopping online has stopped many of our spur-of-the-moment non-essential items. It really does seem to be saving us money.
  4. I only shop once a week. With little kids, it’s important to save as much time as possible. I shop at the stores in the same order, and I rarely (maybe four weeks out of the year) make a second trip. I want to be efficient and maximize my time. If my planning is thorough enough, there is no reason to visit the grocery store in-between intended trips.
  5. I stick to my recipes during the week, and use what I’ve purchased. This again saves money. Sometimes on the weekends we wing it, but during the week especially, I stick to the plan. It’s less thought, time, and I don’t waste food meant for other recipes.

Since eating is necessary to stay alive, why not make it easy to eat and to cook food to eat? It’s like the saying, “Why work harder when you can work smarter?” I am all about efficiency and making life easier so I can enjoy the things in my life that matter: family, friends, hobbies, sleep, and fun.

I hope you can glean some ideas for your family and life. I hope you are encouraged to make the process of getting food on the table easier. And most importantly, I hope you can find something that works for you and your family!

Daddy’s Coming Home

Yes. I realize what I’m about to say is a little old-school, but hey, it works. Don’t worry, though, I am not about to suggest that you put on an apron and high heels. There’s no need to go crazy. What I do think it important is that you, as the executive of your home, create a calm atmosphere for the family to come into harmony with one another. You have that power, Mommy, and you can use it to create and keep a peaceful home.

You and I both know that children can be a handful, and they can act crazy sometimes. You and I are also more acquainted with the craziness than your husband because we are inundated with it all day. Now, I’m not saying that we moms don’t lose it from time to time, but if you are like me, I can talk to my husband, finish dinner, and have a young child pulling on my pants and whining to be picked up all at the same time. Hey, this is my life, and it feels strangely normal to me. To my loving husband, it can feel like absolute madness. Therefore, I try to create a peaceful home when he arrives.

This means that first of all, I don’t ask him to help with the kids right away. There are days I would like to hand off the kids and leave for a weekend spa retreat, but I wait to give him time to leave his work stress at the door. I try to greet him with a smile, even if I want to strangle one of my children. After all, he’s been slaying work dragons for us all day long.

Another good practice is to allow your husband to vent. Sometimes, and I’ll be honest, I don’t care about his day because I feel like my day has been twice as bad, but I still try to listen. Even if I don’t actively listen, I still try to absorb the main points, and ask questions here and there. He likes this, and I make him feel valued. Sometimes by just listening, his stress melts away.

Which brings me to my second point, allow your husband to enjoy coming home and melt off his stress. The sooner he melts his stress away, the sooner your family will enjoy being together. Also, the sooner he will be able to help with the kids. The sooner everyone will laugh. Listening to your husband is something I cannot emphasize enough! You are his leading lady, and he will listen more easily to you. Make him laugh, make him smile. For goodness sake, hug and kiss the man. And, show affection in front of your children.

Lastly, don’t allow your children to come to Daddy with problems as soon as he walks in the door. If the problem is big enough, Dad will get involved at some point in the evening. Again, allow the melting period to happen before home problems become known. The typical man will struggle with dealing with a home problem if he has not melted away the work problem.

Your job? Be the buffer. You will create less stress for your entire family. As the executive mom, you have the power and ability to create this landing pad, so to speak. You know your husband and your children best, and you can, like a smoothie, blend all pieces together to make a tasteful treat, or evening. This is your privilege and your skill set. This is one of the many reasons you hold the position of executive mom!

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Who’s Your Boss?

Do you remember the TV show “Who’s the Boss” that aired in the 1990s?  Do you remember how funny the show was?  I enjoyed this sitcom and probably watched just about every episode that was created, but what stands out to me about this and every other sitcom is that every struggle, issue, and disappointment was solved in 30 minutes…including commercials.  This doesn’t reflect my life.  Is it consistent with your life?

In real life, we have struggles, conflicts, issues, emergencies, unexpected situations, to-do lists, events to attend, people with which to spend time.  We have situations in life that must be handled by us, or they will never be handled.

Who is the boss of your schedule…you or circumstance?  When I was a Life Coach (before I had kids), I told my clients that either you will have control of your schedule or your schedule will have control of you.  Today, who is in charge?  You…or your schedule?  Do you choose when you want to complete a task, work or personal?  Do you decide when you want to work on a hobby?  Do you decide when you will spend time with a spouse, significant other, close friend, child or family member?  Or, do you perceive that your schedule is running you ragged?  Do you feel like you make decisions out desperation rather than by choice?  Would you like to change this?

In a recent blog, I gave you three practical ways to organize your life.  This is a great start, but the key to keeping control of your life is to be consistent.  Are you being consistent in your life today, this week, this month?  Here is a better question.  Are you being intentional?  The definition of intention from dictionary.com says a “purpose or attitude toward the effect of one’s actions or conduct.” There is purpose in intention.  Do you have purpose when you plan your day, your week, your month, your year, your life?

Right now I am writing this blog while my children nap.  Why?  I have an intention to write and post a blog today, and the only way to do this is by making time in my schedule.  The result?  I am in control of my schedule, I will have more relaxing time this evening, and I will feel a sense of accomplishment.  I do not suggest that you drive yourself crazy or become burned out.  Instead, I suggest that you use your time wisely.  I encourage you to use your resources wisely.  I hope that you will learn to know your limits, and push yourself a little in life.  I truly believe most people are capable of doing more than they allow themselves.

I realize that there are situations with kids that we can’t fully control. I know the our spouse needs our time. I realize that accidents and emergencies happen. I sometimes feel as a mom that half of my life is mishaps. However, in general, we have more control over our lives that we realize, give credit to, and take charge of in our everyday life. I am challenging you to take control in this area of your life.

What can you do today that will allow you to take back your schedule?  What can you do this week that will allow you more freedom in life?  What can you do this month to plan better, so that the plan does not get the better of you?  The best part about taking control of your schedule is that you will be able to plan time for yourself, for others, for your passions/hobbies…the sky is the limit.  I hope you will choose today who will be the boss of your schedule.

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To Have a Friend, You Must Be a Friend

I remembered as a child receiving a bookmark from my best friend with the words “To have a best friend, you must be a best friend,” and a poem about it.  All I could remember at the time was that I was someone’s best friend.  I was content.  Today as an adult, I realize there is more.  The saying is so correct that we must be a friend to have a friend.  I am no longer content just with “being” a best friend, I want to “do” and step into an action to build into my friends.

Life gets busy. Kids activities, sickness, personal schedules, school, vacations, etc. can make friendships tough. I have not always been the kindest or most fun person to be around either. I can be preoccupied with the future, worry, stress, and sometimes this comes across negatively to others. But over the years, what have I learned about friendship? If I build into someone else, I have a better friendship.  Not only do I have a better friendship, but I feel better in my own life.  That friend also builds back into me, and they help me in life.  I may not always feel like I have the time, but in the end, there are many more benefits to building into a person than being self-absorbed or lackadaisical.

Have you been too busy to build into a friendship?  Are you holding back from people in your life?  If so, I want to ask you, what might they benefit from if you were to build into their life?  What wisdom could you share, what encouraging word might make their day, what positive effect might you instill into them?  Are you holding back because you are lonely?  Do you feel so exhausted that you have nothing more to give?  Do you feel like you would have nothing positive or wise to say to your friend?  The truth is, we as humans, need to help others.  It’s a deep conviction many people have. Helping others fulfills a longing in our life, it makes us “feel” better, it drives us in life.  You have the power to create a positive affect that can make the world better. And you never know just when someone could use a text, phone call, hug, or time spent together. You reaching out could be exactly what your friend needs right now!

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Secrets: Insider Trading Is Bad News!

I have been given the pleasure of being a part of many secrets in my life. Between influence and personality, I am the kind of person people confide in. I’m highly empathetic and caring, and people tend to pour out their heart to me. I like being that kind of person in someone’s life, and I do honestly enjoy being on the inside.

When I was in high school, I learned an important lesson of not sharing secrets with others. I didn’t learn it from a specific memory, but I slowly learned that secrets don’t make friends. I liked having the power of a secret, but I quickly learned how much it hurt a relationship when it came out to others who were not supposed to know a secret.

And let’s be honest, who doesn’t like a secret? Who doesn’t like to be on the inside? Who doesn’t like to know a juicy tidbit about someone else? I know I do. However, is it worth the hurt and damage to a friend if the secret comes out when it shouldn’t? I don’t think it’s worth it. That is why I don’t share secrets, and haven’t for many years.

Sharing a secret is like insider trading: bad news. It can get you into a lot of trouble. You may not go to jail, but it can cause a backlash of unintended consequences. Just like with insider trading, you have to be careful what comes out your mouth. Just like insider trading, you are giving someone information that you don’t have permission to share. And just like insider trading, it puts your reputation on the line.

When people tell me a secret, I tell them that I won’t share the secret with anyone unless they give me permission. It’s a boundary I won’t cross. And I say, “If I didn’t start the secret, it’s not mine to pass on.” I truly 100% stand behind this saying. If I didn’t create the secret, choose who to tell the secret, have to live out the secret, how is it my right to pass it on? Sometimes I like to say something silly. When the secret teller says to me, “Please don’t tell anyone about XYZ.” I reply with, “I don’t know what you’re talking about.” That is my code for, it’s stuck in my head only.

Gossip can be fun, but it’s only hurtful in the end. I like to live by the golden rule, so if I don’t want others sharing my secret, why would I share someone else’s secret? Simple, right?

As the executive in your home, you have to act like an executive. Executives don’t share insider company info, they don’t burn bridges, and they think long-term/strategically. I want to encourage you to think the same way. Be wise in your decisions, and show your loyalty to friends. After all, aren’t they worth it?!?

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